You don’t have to be a fan of the classic fantasy movie Lord of the Rings to get the impression that rings pack quite a bit of symbolic meaning in your dreams. This is especially true if you’re looking for the Biblical meaning of a ring in dreams.
I’m talking about a dream that is focused specifically on this type of jewelry.
I’m not talking about you dreaming about a wide range of topics involving a large variety of images; from time to time, a ring pops up.
If a ring is the main focus of your dream, then this is the blog post for you.
On the other hand, if your dream is more focused on an action, a situation, or some other object, then this is probably not the right dream interpretation for your nighttime vision.
The Symbolic Meaning of a Wedding Ring
If the type of ring you saw in your dream is a wedding ring, your subconscious is trying to draw your attention to the topic of commitment.
Please understand that just because you see a wedding ring in your dream doesn’t mean that you are going to be tying the knot.
In most cases, dreams are not prophetic in that way.
Instead, your subconscious is trying to draw your attention to a specific theme that you may be overlooking or completely ignoring or misinterpreting.
Pay close attention to how you commit.
Can you commit?
How long can you stay committed?
What do you do when you commit to something?
How dedicated are you?
What kind of results do you normally get?
Believe it or not and accept it or not, your ability to commit plays a big role in how your life turns out.
If you want better relationships, you better level up your ability to commit and stay committed.
If you want to look better when you look at yourself in the mirror, then you better commit to that weight loss and exercise regimen.
I can go on and on.
Commitment is one of the raw ingredients of life because we can all pick who we would like to be and the kind of life we’d like to live.
Most people do this.
The problem is too many people can’t commit enough to turn whatever it is that they dream about and hope for into things that they can see, hear, touch, taste, and smell.
But we all have that power: to turn ideas into reality.
One of the keys to making this happen is the ability to commit.
When you see a ring in your dreams and it is the central motif of your nighttime vision, sit up and pay attention.
Maybe you’re the type of person who quickly loses interest after they say they will do something.
Maybe you’re the type of person who focuses on other things that you think are higher priorities, and then you never get back to what you previously committed to.
There are many different variations of this, but you get the point.
If you fail to commit, things never push through.
This is what brings about a lot of frustration in many people’s lives.
At the end of the day, they refuse to commit and put in the work and make the necessary sacrifices to achieve the kind of outcome they’re looking for.
Worse yet, they are looking for somebody else to bail them out.
Have you ever come across somebody who is in a relationship and they are hoping against hope that the other person will get their act together so the relationship will somehow “work?”
That’s not gonna happen if you’re just waiting for that other person to do the job.
The same goes for work.
If you’re the type of person who is waiting for other co-workers to get it together so you can level up, there is a problem there.
Stop Waiting for the World to Change
The problem with most people’s commitment “strategy” (if you even want to call it that) is that it isn’t a strategy at all.
When you find yourself waiting for other people or circumstances to work themselves out, you are dealing with things that are beyond your control.
You are simply wasting your most important asset (which is your time) for something that may or may not happen.
It is no surprise that people who are in your situation feel helpless, frustrated, and in many cases, hopeless.
You’re feeling hopeless precisely because you rob yourself of hope when you choose not to honor your commitment.
Your Word Is Your Bond: Your Word Creates Your Reality
According to the Bible, God spoke everything except humanity into existence, for humanity went the extra mile and got personal by putting clay in His hands and shaping the first man, Adam, and breathing into his nostrils.
That’s how intimate our relationship with God is.
He actually got His hands dirty creating us.
But the main point here is that for everything else, He spoke it into being.
Well, believe it or not, you speak your reality into being as well.
When you say to people, “I’m going to finish college.” or “I’m going to be an engineer.” or “I’m going to get this type of job.” or I’m going to get a promotion.” or “I’m going to get married.” or do this, do that, you are declaring an alternate reality to the Universe.
This is not much different from how God spoke the universe into being.
Now, I’m not saying that you are God.
But since you are created in the image of the Lord, some of that capacity is there.
It’s a minuscule fraction of God’s creative power, but it is still there.
If you need proof of this, think of the most impressive building you’ve ever entered.
What if I told you that that building made out of glass, steel, possibly even stone, and tons of cement for sure started out as an idea?
Maybe it’s a rough sketch on the back of a napkin or something.
Pretty soon, that idea is then fleshed out some more in some drafting paper, and after several people agree on different parameters of the design, it gets transferred into a blueprint.
But we’re still talking about ink on paper.
We’re still talking about stuff that you cannot see, hear, touch, taste, and smell.
But pretty soon, once the blueprint is approved and financing goes through, what do you think happens?
That majestic building gets built!
It doesn’t fall out of the sky fully formed.
Most things don’t.
But eventually, you see it grow in front of you.
When the crane stops moving and the construction crew disappears, what’s left is a gleaming testimony to humanity’s ability to take what doesn’t exist into something that is part of tangible reality.
You have the same power at a lower level and at a different scale, but it is still the same power.
The secret is commitment.
This is precisely what people are afraid of, so they’d rather wait for other people to commit instead of working towards claiming, refining, celebrating, and eventually strengthening their personal power to shape reality.
Commitment Doesn’t Need Big Moves
One of the most common reasons why people have a tough time with commitment is because they’re looking for something big.
They’re looking for overnight results.
They’re craving some sort of one-time-big-time experience.
Wouldn’t it be great if the key to a successful, loving, sustaining, happy, fulfilling relationship is for you to just put a coin into a machine and turn some sort of lever, and out comes this relationship, and you’re good for the rest of your life?
As ridiculous as that idea may sound, that is precisely how a lot of people think about relationships — the same way they think about their careers, their business, their education, and their health.
We crave convenience: minimum effort, maximum reward.
What’s not to love?
But unfortunately, anything worthwhile in life requires sacrifice.
That is a Biblical theme.
When Adam and Eve sinned because they became self-conscious for the first time, what do you think God did?
He clothed them.
He covered their nakedness.
But it didn’t come for free.
That was the first time death entered the world, which completely contradicted the Devil’s promise to Eve.
Because of sin, death entered reality.
Those skins came from previously living animals.
I raised this with you because the power of commitment arises from consequence.
You may be thinking that when you commit, nothing much happens, and the world is still unfair and unnecessarily harsh.
Maybe you’re not getting the attention that you feel you deserve.
Perhaps, you’re not getting the reward that you think you should have coming your way.
Whatever your frustration may be, you feel small.
Even though you have committed, you feel it’s not happening. It’s not coming your way.
Well, in reality, the moment you commit and take action on that commitment, there’s a chain reaction that starts.
You don’t feel it immediately.
The consequences don’t line up in such a way that you see a black-and-white change from before.
But the longer you stay committed and the longer you put in the action, the longer you act in a way that is consistent with the commitment that you have undertaken, and things begin to change.
At the very least, you begin to change because you’re more patient than before.
Previously, you had no patience, or you had unrealistic expectations.
But here you are, sticking with it, doing what you need to do, taking it day after day, week after week, month after month, and if need be, year after year.
This is when the journey changes you, and this is also when you start to appreciate what you have coming to you.
But if you hang on to that mindset that you need all results to be immediate, then you’re gonna have a tough time because the Universe turns on its own axis. It has its own schedule, and you better play along.
It’s not like you have much of a choice except maybe to pout and cry that it’s all unfair and harsh.
What Does It Mean to Lose Your Ring in Your Dream?
A common interpretation of losing your ring in dreams involves internal drama.
Pay close attention to what I just said.
I said, “internal drama.”
I’m not talking about the drama you have with other people.
I’m definitely not referring to the times when you point your finger at another and say:
“Why did you drop the ball, and I had to suffer?”
I’m talking about internal drama.
A lot of the reason why we can’t commit to a life of excellence, growth, and beauty is not because we don’t have the capacity.
You’d be surprised as to how skilled and talented you could be if you applied yourself.
If you’re able-bodied and you have time, you can turn yourself into anything.
That’s how powerful and adaptable the human species is.
No, the reason why you fall short (if you’re completely honest with yourself) is the fact that you do not give yourself permission to succeed.
People can be counted on to come up with all sorts of internal drama that will talk them out of the commitments that they made.
They could say:
“Well, this other thing is higher in priority.”
Or “I just don’t have what it takes right now.
Maybe I’ll get on with it later.”
Or they trick themselves and say:
“Well, maybe tomorrow, I’ll do it.”
Or “I’ll pick this up tomorrow or some other time.”
This is precisely the game we play ourselves when we are threatened by the change that will naturally come from the commitments that we have made.
It’s one thing to get pumped up about the fact that you need to lose weight, especially when people tell you that you’ve added on pounds or you’ve looked at yourself in the mirror and compared it to your old pictures.
But it’s another to actually go through with the program that will help you get your ideal body.
That’s when it becomes a sacrifice.
That’s when it becomes “work.”
But this is precisely when you should stop compromising with yourself because when you feel like you’re working on something, your mind will come up with a million and one reasons for you not to go through with it.
First, you trick yourself into thinking that there are other things that you should be doing.
Sometimes you could tell yourself that you’re just not up to it, or you don’t feel like it, or things haven’t lined up.
I can go on and on.
The list is quite long.
But the good news is that the more you do this to yourself, the more familiar you become with the list items.
And the more familiar you become, the more impatient you should get with yourself.
You could say to yourself:
“What am I doing?
I’ve said this a million times before, and I never ended up in a better place because this is a lie that I keep telling myself.
I just don’t want to go through with it.
That is the truth, and if that’s the truth, then I have to ask myself:
‘What does this show about my character?
What does this show about my ability to affect my own personal reality?
Surely I’m not the weak person that people say that I am.'”
But that’s the choice that you have to make because, ultimately, that is the logical conclusion.
If you always give in to yourself in this form of internal drama and bargaining, that is the unavoidable conclusion: You are a weak person.
You’re weak not because you are incapable of strength but because you are willing to take whatever you allow yourself to settle for.
You don’t shoot for excellence.
You don’t strain to the breaking point to achieve breakthroughs.
Instead, you go for what is easy.
The Path to Personal Destruction: Easy Street
What if I told you that the reason why so many people earn far less than they feel that they deserve is because they’ve taken a path that pays that certain amount?
I’m not just talking about income here.
I’m also talking about relationships, health outcomes, and quality of life.
You can never outgrow your mindset.
Your external reality is a reflection of your internal world.
So if you’re the type of person who always buckles down and shrinks away from any kind of challenge or doesn’t have the patience to go through a long, protracted struggle that requires daily or even hourly sacrifice, then you get what you get.
There’s nothing unfair about that.
There’s no conspiracy of people working together to make you miserable or make you feel a sense of regret for the kind of life you’re living now.
You chose your reality!
Again, I’m talking about able-bodied people here.
I’m not talking about able-bodied adults here. I’m not talking about children or people with disabilities.
I’m talking to you, a regular person.
At this point, you have a choice.
You could do what a lot of people are doing and just say:
“I am a victim.
I only earn this much because the system is messed up.
It oppresses me.”
If you think that way, you have a lot of company.
Let’s just put it that way.
But let me ask you this simple question:
If you think you’re a victim, do you think your life will change?
If you think that the world has an obligation to improve your life, do you think your
No, it won’t!
In fact, it will get worse.
You have reprogrammed yourself into thinking that you don’t have to change anything about what you do on a day-to-day basis, as well as your mindset, because it is everybody else’s fault.
The longer you think that way, the longer you will get the disappointing results that you’ve been settling for all this time.
Worse yet, the more you think like a victim, the more powerless you become.
Did you know that you can repair stuff?
Did you know that you can find stuff that other people have thrown away and repurpose them or even rehab them?
There are so many things you could do!
In fact, your possibilities are endless.
I know it’s easy to say that, especially if you feel that things are bleak on your end.
But even if you think you’re surrounded by shit, nothing is preventing you from turning that shit into compost and planting seeds in that compost and growing a food forest that you can then sell to get dollars that you can buy other stuff you need.
Do you see my point?
People keep focusing on shit or the pile of manure that they think their life has degenerated into and lose sight of the fact that when you look at any kind of forest, any kind of field, what do you think gives all those plants their green vibrancy?
The nitrogen that is locked into manure!
So stop giving yourself the excuse.
Stop giving into your internal drama and imagining yourself as some sort of victim, all wallowing in shit that you didn’t create.
Understand that shit is gold.
Understand that when you wake up hungry or when you wake up feeling like life has passed you by, that is not oppression.
Instead, it’s an opportunity.
Get Motivated by a “Watch Me” Attitude
I know I sound like a broken record if you’ve been reading these blog posts.
But when I was in graduate school, we had a campus recruiting program.
In the industry that I was in, if you want to work in that industry after you graduate, you have to get a summer job.
The summer job will pave the way to internships and will pave the way to professional recommendations.
It opens the door to so many opportunities.
But if you can’t be bothered to take a summer job in that industry, the chances of you working in that industry after you graduate are close to zero.
I had a friend who was in the same situation as me.
We both fucked around and ended up with no job prospects, and the summer was just around the corner.
I went to the career center, pulled up the mailing info of 500 or so firms in the Northern and Southern California regions, and I was just sending out this inquiry letter like crazy.
My friend saw me in the career center printing out all these letters, and he said:
“You know that stuff is not gonna work.
All of them are going to turn you down.
You are applying too late.”
The only thing I could say to him was what I was feeling.
I said, “Watch me!”
And sure enough, there was another last-minute job fair on our campus, and to make a long story short, I scored a summer job.
Now, you may be thinking:
“What does this have to do with the 500 or so letters that you sent out since none of those hired you?”
Well, in reality, it has everything to do with it because you have to look at the mental state behind the willingness and the ability to commit to printing 500 letters and resumes in sending them out.
This is the mindset of something who is willing to try.
This is the mindset of somebody who is willing to work.
This is the mindset of somebody who has given himself permission to take what comes and try to get the opportunity and make the best of it.
And with that mindset, I was able to do well in those last-minute campus interviews.
Unfortunately, too many of us don’t want to give ourselves that opportunity.
We look at the big picture and say:
“Well, it looks bleak.
There’s a high chance that I’m not going to get what I feel I deserve, so everything is lost.
I might as well not try.”
Or the more common, “Let me just settle for crumbs.”
I shared this story with you because you have a choice.
You could say to the world, “Watch me!”
These are the same people that have seen me try and fail.
These are the same people that have seen you become disappointed and let down.
Give yourself permission to say, “Watch me!”
And if it’s coming from the right place, I know these are not just going to be empty words that you’re just spitting out into the wind.
When you say this, this is going to be backed by action and, more importantly, commitment to a series of sacrifices, hard work, and risk-taking that are necessary to get you to where you belong.
Be Faithful to Yourself
The Bible talks about wedding rings primarily as a seal of faithfulness and commitment.
For example, in Exodus 36:29:
“And they were coupled beneath, and coupled together at the head thereof, to one ring: thus he did to both of them in both the corners.”
The wedding ring in your dream doesn’t just represent commitment.
It also refers to one of the most powerful fruits of commitment which is loyalty.
When you commit to your dream, one of the worst things that you can do is to allow yourself to be flooded with alternate opportunities.
I’ve seen people’s lives destroyed by this again and again.
This is called the “shiny object syndrome.”
This follows a familiar pattern.
You’re working on a project that you know is solid, and you’re doing whatever needs to be done.
You’re putting in the work day in, day out.
Then after you made some progress and things are looking good, another opportunity comes along.
Of course, just like many other opportunities, you have to take advantage of the opportunity within a very short timeframe.
Otherwise, it’s lost forever.
At least, this is how what it looks like.
So you think about it, and you come to the conclusion that you would probably be better off if you took that opportunity.
Maybe it has a better return on investment or return on effort.
Maybe you feel it’s easier to accomplish.
Whatever your reasons are, you drop whatever you’re doing, and you get on to the next project.
You make some progress.
You make the necessary sacrifices, and you come up to a certain point.
And sure enough, like clockwork, another opportunity comes.
So what do you do?
You drop everything, and you jump on that other opportunity.
Now here comes the pain.
Too many people on their deathbeds think about the kind of life they have lived.
When they look over their shoulder, and they look at the projects that they’ve worked on, what do they see?
They see a long trail of half-finished projects.
They are like carcasses out there in the time horizon of your life.
I’m not just talking about jobs here.
I’m also talking about business opportunities and, worse yet, relationships.
Besides your relationship with your wife or husband, I’m also talking about your relationship with your children.
Can you imagine looking over your shoulder and all you see are these carcasses?
When you turn back, it’s time to check out because you’ve died.
You don’t want to find yourself in that situation, and that’s precisely what the lack of loyalty brings.
When you have selected one vision over others, make that the central vision of your life and give it everything that you have.
Make it happen!
Loyalty Takes Courage
While commitment is crucial, to fully commit, we all need another ingredient.
That ingredient is courage.
It takes courage to work hard, especially when there’s an opportunity to slack off.
It takes courage to remain loyal to your spouse or your significant other when others want your attention.
It takes courage to turn away from what is quick, easy, and pleasurable to work on something that may not work out, is annoying, and takes a lot of your mental and physical energy.
It takes courage to stick to somebody that you’ve been butting heads with and love tremendously, but you know that they need to get their act together.
It’s so easy to just hit the door and never come back because your partner simply refuses to change.
It takes courage to stay in that relationship.
Learn to be more courageous.
Face your fears straight in the eye.
You will realize that you have what it takes, but you have to stare it in the eyes.
You cannot assume its face.
You cannot assume its enormity or scale.
Look at it!
Confront it with your attention and focus.
Most people cannot be bothered to do this.
What David and Goliath Can Teach You About Commitment
The story of David and Goliath is one of the most misunderstood stories in the Bible.
It all boils down to courage.
Of course, in Bible school, we’ve been told that David had courage because he believed in God.
That is absolutely true!
But there’s a lot more going on in the story.
When you look at the Philistine army and the Hebrews, the Hebrews were deathly afraid of Goliath, the giant.
All they can focus on is his size.
They see him from a distance away, and this tremendous fear simply overcomes them.
No Hebrew soldier would want to fight Goliath because all they can look at is his size.
It seems from this passage in the Bible that none of those soldiers ever bothered to look closely at Goliath and confront him with their scrutiny.
If they did, they would realize, just based on what the Bible says: Goliath is a very sick man.
In fact, the Bible says that he was seeing double swords, and he had to have somebody carry his armor and somebody to guide him.
These details don’t add up! It doesn’t sound like an unbeatable, formidable, horrific foe about to put you out, and this is where the courage of David comes from.
He has such a close relationship with God that he trusts God in everything that he does.
And since he has this close personal relationship with the Lord, he is able to look at Goliath thoroughly, not with assumptions, not based on what other people say, and definitely not based on Goliath’s reputation.
He decided to look at Goliath based on what he is, based on reality.
And when he swung that sling, he did it with courage, bravery, and certainty.
He actually took the time to look at Goliath and realize that this was not somebody to fear because “the Lord is with me.”
Is the Lord with you?
Are you going to allow Him to give you the strength to let you overcome your fears, your laziness, and your mental habits?
Are you going to trust Him to take you by the hand and lead you into your own personal Promised Land?
That is the question.
Or, are you going to take refuge in the million and one excuses that you normally give yourself to rob yourself of any meaningful future?
Unfortunately, this is the type of question we have to answer for ourselves.
Dream interpretation and symbology have fascinated me ever since I read Freud’s classic, “The Interpretation of Dreams.” Ever since, I have explored Christian, Jewish, Hindu, and Buddhist as well as Jungian psychological ideas about the meaning of dreams. Thanks for joining me in my exploration of the amazing intersection between our conscious waking world and the rich expanse of our subconscious-the home of our intuition, instincts, and hidden potential.