If you find out that your friend is being stalked, you can’t help but feel creeped out for him or her. There’s just something definitely cringy about the whole act of stalking. A dream of being stalked has the same exact feeling.
What kind of person would be so sad and pathetic that they would invest so much time and effort trying to figure out what the person is doing online, who they’re talking to, or worse yet, physically tracking them down?
If you had a dream about being stalked, it’s perfectly natural for you to wake up feeling confused, concerned, and possibly worried.
General interpretation and symbols of a dream of being stalked and their impact on your waking life
Being stalked in a dream: helplessness
To dream of being stalked or stalking someone in dreams represents negative situations in your waking life. Of course, many things could upset us, but when it comes to the dream symbology of stalking, it may represent feelings of humiliation, failure, and disappointment.
This should not be a surprise because when you get close to somebody, it’s much easier for the both of you to get hurt. After all, the only people that can truly hurt us are those who know us best. They know our vulnerabilities, and this can mean that they know where to stick the knife, figuratively speaking.
If you think about it, being disappointed in your relationships, at least at some point, is just part of the game. People are not perfect. You can’t expect perfection from others if you yourself don’t have it altogether.
Do you see how this works?
Still, we would be lying to ourselves if we claim that people don’t let us down. They can and will disappoint us.
The question is, what message is your subconscious sending you regarding your relationship with people so you can communicate better or handle them more skillfully? By knowing this, you don’t get emotions of betrayal, disappointment, hurt, insecurity, loss, or even humiliation.
A dream about being stalked: coping mechanisms
Another general takeaway that you can get from a dream of being stalked indicates faulty coping mechanisms.
Let’s put it this way. People don’t like to be told that they’re mistaken.
But, if you’re completely honest with yourself, there are certain situations in your life that you know you’re handling the wrong way. Perhaps they lead to lose-lose situations. Or, worse yet, you end up creating unnecessary enemies.
For whatever reason, when you find yourself faced with certain circumstances, you can almost be counted on to react in a negative way which triggers consequences that are not all that good for you.
You can see this a mile away because it has happened several times before, but you seem unable to change it. Think of it like witnessing a car accident that you’ve seen a million times before — exact same place, exact same circumstance, and exact same results.
But for whatever reason, you can’t change it. So, you’re doomed to see it again and again.
Being stalked in a dream: taking control
What your mind is telling you in this general meaning and interpretation of your dreams is that you have a lot more power over what happens in your life. Don’t look at yourself as some sort of passenger or bystander. You can turn the wheel. You can get out of the way of the speeding run-away car.
You don’t have to take the loss. If anything, your mind is telling you to wake up to your responsibility to yourself. Practice a little bit more self-care with your mind and emotions.
If somebody in your life is triggering you to say things that eventually cause negative results for both of you, it’s probably a good idea to talk to them or change the way you think about them.
Alternatively, you can change what you do instinctively. You have a lot more hold over the situation than you give yourself credit for.
A dream about being stalked: self-care
Finally, another general dream interpretation of seeing yourself being watched or stalked indicates a need to take a break. Just as a person being stalked would benefit tremendously if they lose their stalker, the same goes with you.
Perhaps you need to take a vacation. The great thing about going on a vacation is that you get to leave your old identity. You’re no longer playing your roles, whether it’s a brother, sister, father, mother, friend, son-in-law, daughter-in-law, employee, business owner, associate, team member, or church parishioner.
And when you go into this new place, you get to experience things with unvarnished eyes. It’s a great way to reconnect with your own personal sense of possibility and adventure.
When you go back to your house, maybe you have grown a little bit. Perhaps you can look at the existing roles that you slipped back into from a completely different perspective. Maybe this can improve the quality of your life at some level or other.
There’s a chance that this happens when you come back from your vacation. This is why it’s a good idea to take a break from time to time. Maybe take a week off or at least three days.
What’s important is you’re mentally prepared so you can come back refreshed.
Common interpretations of stalking dreams
Now that we have the general interpretations, meanings, and broad outlines involving the motif out of the way, what follows are more specific dream readings that focus more on context.
Pay close attention to the specific details of each dream to see which one applies to you.
What does it mean if you are being stalked in your dream?
If you are the one being stalked in your dream and you see yourself viewing the dream from some sort of distant camera, it represents that you are troubled by a problem in your real, waking life that you can’t seem to shake off. Try as you may, it seems that the problem won’t leave.
Keep in mind that this dream has to be from some sort of “mind’s eye” angle. It’s like watching a movie, so you don’t really see who is stalking you in your dream. You just know that you’re being stalked because of the POV or point of view of your dream.
If you see this motif, then it indicates that whatever problem you’re struggling with – maybe you have issues with addiction, personality conflicts, sexual frustration, financial issues, or whatever else – is “stalking” you. You can’t seem to shake it off.
But here’s what makes it frustrating. You see yourself in your dream being followed by this imaginary mental chimera, but it ends abruptly. There’s really no solution to it.
Not surprisingly, people who have this type of dream wake up frustrated. Can you blame them? There is no closure nor resolution.
If these meanings of your dream match your experience, the key here is to claim the fact that you own your life. You are responsible for your life.
Maybe you need to change your point of view. Maybe you need to let go of certain mindsets that influence your behavior to the point that you’ve created this type of world for yourself.
Apparently, your problems and troubles are getting the better of you, so you might need to take a different direction. One way to do that is to change your mindset.
Are you the type of person who always keeps saying: “I can’t afford that.” or “I’m poor.” or “Life is unfair.”?
Well, you might want to switch things around and ask questions instead of giving yourself condemning conclusions.
Do you see how damning the phrase “I am poor” or “I am an idiot” means? You’re programming yourself to fail.
Instead of saying, “I am poor” or “I can’t afford that,” ask yourself the following questions:
- How could I afford that?
- What do I need today so I could drive that Ferrari?
- How much do I need to make daily to afford that mansion?
- What things do I need to do to earn X amount?
- How much should my hourly labor be worth I make this much at month’s end?
Do you see the difference between the two lines of thought?
In the earlier situation, you dismiss yourself. You basically said to yourself that there’s no possibility that you will ever afford that Ferrari, so you give up. “You’re worthless, useless, and hopeless.”
Of course, you don’t say those things up front, but that’s the implication. Your subconscious is smarter than you give it credit for.
In the second situation, when you give yourself questions to resolve, you tap into your inner genius. All of us are resourceful. All of us can be creative.
You’d be surprised as to what kind of solutions you come up with if you keep asking questions that inspire you to do more and break out of that box your life is stuck in.
What does it mean to dream about being a stalker?
Dreams involving stalking someone are distressing in that the tables have turned: you are the one committing the act of aggression. This could have a similar feeling to dreaming about beating someone up. You’re the villain in your dreams.
Dreams about stalking someone could have meanings that represent your shadow self. I know that sounds kind of nefarious, but the truth is, we all have a hidden identity.
This is the part of ourselves that say things like:
- I can’t make it.
- Real-life is unfair.
- The rich get richer; the poor get poorer.
- Nothing’s gonna happen.
- Nothing is going to change.
- I’m an idiot.
- I’m a child of idiots.
- I live in a country run by idiots.
I could go on and on.
The shadow character stalking you is the deep aspect of you that looks at problems and obsesses over them to the point that they get bigger and bigger, and you get swallowed up. You have to understand that the more you obsess about your troubles without asking the right questions, the bigger they become, and the less worthy and resourceful you seem to yourself.
This translates to all sorts of bad energies. This shadow version of yourself starts taking hold of your real life. Pretty soon, you don’t want people around you to succeed because if they do, what does that make you look like to yourself?
So, you find creative ways to rob people of their dreams by undermining their feelings of confidence, possibility, and their own intuition.
But what makes this dangerous and sneaky at the same time is that you do this in a loving way. It comes out as a concern, but in reality, it’s motivated by the fact that you want people around you to remain stuck because misery loves company.
The good news is, you don’t have to stay in that metal box. You don’t have to wallow in disappointment and frustration.
You just have to first realize that you are the author of your life, not your parents, not your grandparents. You are not the victim of history.
The reason why you keep getting the same disappointing results, day in and day out, is because you keep making the same choices. I know a lot of people don’t want to hear this, but it needs to be said because this is the kind of stuff that will set you free.
I ought to know. I learned this firsthand. But I also know that for the truth to set you free, it must first piss you off.
If you’re dreaming of being a stalker, it’s because you have this emotional cloud following you, and no matter how much money people pour into your lives or how many lotteries you win, that’s never going to go away.
And pretty soon, all those good breaks and luck will run out. And you will go back to where you began.
There is a better way: taking ownership.
What do dreams of being stalked by someone that won’t go away represent?
If in your dream you see someone who is peeking around corners, looking at you, and obviously stalking you while you’re alone, obviously will try your best to lose them. But if it looks like you can’t shake them off regardless of what you do, where you go, and where you find yourself, it can indicate a sense of victimhood.
This motif of victimhood is seen in many dream interpretations, like a dream of being a passenger in a car. There are many ways people put themselves in the situation because this is a mental space. It is almost always never a physical space unless you are in prison.
Put simply, no matter what’s happening in your life, you always find yourself interpreting things in such a way that you are the loser.
Why would anybody do this to themselves?
Well, it’s actually quite simple. Since you’re a victim, the world has to change, not you. The world is also under some sort of obligation to apologize to you.
But the truth is, you don’t owe the world an apology. Sounds simple and straightforward, right?
Well, these are the qualities that make it so addictive. You don’t want to take responsibility, so you continue to point the finger at people and situations from your memories you think have caused your present misery.
You don’t want to lift a finger to change. Why should you? Haven’t you suffered enough? You are, after all, the victim.
This is the kind of mindset that keeps you locked away, and it’s hard to shake it off.
No wonder you find yourself caught in a cruel cycle of problems related to your family, love life, job, or friends. Because wherever you go, hell goes with you. It’s in your mindset.
That stalker in your dream is not a real person. Instead, it is you and your coping mechanisms.
Now, you may be thinking to yourself: “This sounds terrible. Why would people do this to themselves?”
Well, it’s actually quite simple. There is a reward. When you imagine yourself as the victim, it’s easy to take and take. You don’t think you’re responsible for giving value and receiving value. Instead, you think that they owe it to you. It is also easier to justify the times when you’ve victimized other people.
This type of dream means that you’re stuck in that mental and spiritual pattern.
It could also indicate that you want your power back. Maybe you’re aching for some semblance of control.
Pay close attention to how you’re weaving or trying to evade the stalker in your dream. That is your sense of desperation. You know that something is out of place, but you feel that you have been caught up in all those cycles beyond your influence, and there’s really not much you can do.
Well, the good news is, you can convert some of that desperate evasion energy into conversion energy.
How? By taking ownership of your life.
Tell yourself that:
- I am more than the abuse that was inflicted on me.
- I am more than my parents splitting up.
- I am more than my mother yelling at me.
- I am more than my girlfriend running out on me and cheating behind my back.
- I am more than my boss calling me an idiot. I am more than that.
- I deserve more, and that’s why I’m not going to blame other people, and I’m going to take ownership today.
When you start thinking about past trauma, you automatically think about “I chose that. Now, I’m going to choose something better, so I will respond differently.”
At first, this is going to be a little bit clunky and awkward, but pretty soon, you get the hang of it. With enough focus and proper investment of willpower, you will be able to start achieving the emotional states that you need, like motivation and inspiration, to handle whatever is in front of you.
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What is the meaning of having dreams about someone stalking you in your house?
When you dream that someone is watching you from outside as you go about your daily routine at home, this kind of dream imagery can indicate that you are concerned about what people are saying about you. You feel like they are judgmental, and they’re watching your every step and paying close attention to the things you say.
They’re not doing this because they care about you. They’re not at the least bit concerned about your safety and security. They are not, after all, security guards.
Instead, they are stalkers. They want to harm you.
So, you think that your reputation is under threat. This can be a family member doing this or a friend.
What’s weird about this, in many cases, is that they are motivated by good intentions. They say to you: “Well, I’m just holding you up to the standard that you set for yourself.” But are you really?
Also, this signifies personal anxieties and fears unleashed by spending too much time on social media. Regardless, if you’re not careful, you develop a deep sense of vulnerability, and you’re afraid that you’re going to be making a mistake.
Well, the truth is, the only way you can grow is to make mistakes. You have to fail quickly and fail forward. But it’s hard to do that because you’re trying to present this front that you are somehow perfect.
Of course, this is all driven by the fear of being judged and found inadequate. So, the biggest strategy here is that you start putting up a front and living the kind of life that you think will satisfy other people.
But that’s not the kind of life that you’d desire for yourself. It usually plays out quite a bit when it comes to living up to the expectations of your parents or people in authority.
Another aspect of dreams like this is that you’re feeling stuck and frustrated because there’s really no privacy. It’s as if you think people have some sort of ownership stake in you, that they have a right to make you feel miserable with their expectations.
You need to sort through this conflict mass of emotion and faulty coping mechanisms. Otherwise, it’s going to wear you down.
What does it mean to have dreams of being watched by someone in your sleep?
The positive spin to this is that someone truly cares about you to the point that they’re going to go out of their way to check up on you.
This can involve romantic relationships. In many cases, it can also involve people at work like your boss.
The downside is that this is a form of micromanagement. A lot of people in your life desire to control you for your own good. For example, your parents don’t want you to create problems through certain bad decisions because they care about you. They love you.
The problem is, there’s a thin line between concern and running someone else’s life to the point that it becomes some form of oppression. Unfortunately, when someone is motivated by love, they become blind, and they no longer recognize when their concern actually becomes overbearing, even suffocating.
Not surprisingly, you feel insecure because your parents always seem to be there to deal with the negative part of the consequences of your action. They’re always there to save the day, so you become an emotional and possibly financial and intellectual infant.
Part of you hates them for this because you can see that you are suffering from dependency and you lack freedom, while another part of you is fearful that somehow, they may disappear the next day and you are left to figure things out on your own.
Neither of these situations is good. You need to step out of the shadows of people you have grown dependent on, and you need to communicate with others regarding proper boundaries.
What does it mean to dream about fighting with the stalker?
When you see yourself fighting with your stalker, pay close attention to how it plays out.
Did you first argue? Did you ask him or her: “Why are you stalking me? What is the problem with you?”
Or did you just start throwing blows? Worse yet, did you brandish a weapon, or did they whip out a weapon?
Regardless of the specific differences and different signs, they all go to the same place. You know that you are frustrated with at least one aspect of your life. For whatever reason, you think you’re living someone else’s life where you’re not really living life according to the terms that you desire.
So, there’s pent-up anger there, and if you feel that you are some sort of victim, there’s a part of you that just wants to lash out. Whether we’re talking about people, events, or situations, they’re out of your control, and this eats you up.
Now, if you’re using some sort of projectile weapon, then this signifies that you’re either trying to deal with something in the past, or you’re just worried sick about things that have yet to happen in the future.
Fighting with your stalker can also indicate that you are beginning to mature, and your old strategy of depending on somebody else to take on risks — to define you, to handle your limitations for you — is a dead end.
You know that you need to stand on your own two feet and learn things on your own.
Of course, this is going to be quite a change in how you’ve been handling things, and it’s not a surprise that, in your sleeping consciousness, there’s violence involved.
What is the dream meaning of confronting a stalker?
When you’re confronting your stalker and the person remains in the shadows, and you’re talking to that person in your dreams, the meaning is quite interesting. It means that you are communicating with your shadow self.
You have a pretty broad understanding of the impact that your shadow identity has on your waking life. You’re sick of it. You want to try something new.
When you see yourself confronting a stalker in your dreams, it means that you are now brave enough to stand by the truest form of yourself and let it come out. It means that you have selected certain values, and you are now willing to invest the proper willpower and focus on living your life for those values.
Alternatively, this can be a sign that you are now willing and ready to create boundaries in your life. Perhaps these are healthier boundaries between you and your fans or people who have a lot of influence on you. This can also include boundaries between your romantic partner or significant other.
Finally, confronting a stalker in your dreams can also mean owning up to wrong decisions and choosing to stop blaming other people for your failures.
This can lead to violence in your dream, but that shouldn’t be surprising. Part of you wants to desperately hand on to how you’ve been doing things. For whatever reason, it’s rewarded for staying in place and being miserable.
But more of your sleeping consciousness has had enough. So, let it all play out, understand what these dreams mean, make the right choices when you wake up.
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Dream Example #1
I know someone is watching my every move. I can feel it.
Am out for my morning run at the park. The usual people. I don’t know them by name but after meeting them here every morning for the last two years, I can tell the newbies apart from the locals.
Slight problem, I still feel watched but I cannot pick out by who.
Everything feels the same. The sun seems to have the same gentle rays, the good kind before its too hot and we are sweating buckets.
Niguel, the tuck shop owner, is busy taking stock as he does every morning. I slow down and he waves, normal.
Can I confide my fears in him or do I run the risk of sounding mentally unstable? I choose to not say anything. I decide that as a girl with toned curves, I should be used to the stares, whistles and cat calls.
I finish my laps but I still feel watched. Should I go home or linger in the crowds where I can trust the mob to save me if am attacked?
One glance on my watch the decision is made, I must go home. I have a meeting with the Chief of Operations in about forty-five minutes. I cannot cancel on a whim it has taken me weeks to get this appointment. As I walk to the house, I still feel watching eyes at the back of my head.
I walked into my simple home, took a quick shower, power suit on and it was time to leave. When I opened my front door, there was a tall man in a black hood just walking a little further from my house.
That’s strange, hoodie in this beautiful sun? I got a bad feeling. Then I reminded myself I didn’t have the time to keep profiling people.
As I drove to my appointment, I could bet there was a black car following me.
There was a red car between me and the black car. The hooded man, black car, was I reading too much into this or was there really call for alarm. I had to focus on my daily affirmations playing on the stereo and focus on driving.
To get to the appointment, I had to veer off the main rod and join a dirt road. I knew there was trouble when the black car joined the dirt road right behind me.
Do I pray the rosary, call my lawyer and have him record my last will or do I just assume it is all a coincidence? I am frightened, I drive a few miles over the speed limit.
I am scared. I should have taken the martial arts class when I had the chance. The only thing that I can count as a blessing, the shoes I am wearing I can run in. You know, in case push comes to shove.
The black car drives right in front of me and blocks my exit.
?Wake up honey. It is just a bad dream? I wake up and look at my boyfriend’s amused face. I wonder what I said in my dream to have him smiling like that.
Dream Example #2
I found myself sitting inside my car, on the side of the road, wondering how I got there.
Across from the road, there was a scattering of stores. It was mid-afternoon, the sun still hot and beating down on the scorching Earth.
A man walked past my car – I assumed to go to one of the other stores. It was a pretty ordinary occurrence.
Then I saw another man, this one old. He was hobbling along, using a walking stick. I felt sorry for the man, wondering why he was alone, all by himself, and walking with so much difficulty.
As he came closer to my car, he seemed to look younger than he actually was, and something about his face began to seem off.
He came even closer, and it seemed as if he was deliberately walking awkwardly, as to make it only seem like he was frail.
And his face looked charred in some places, features becoming more and more twisted. I began to panic as he began walking quite deliberately towards my car rather than one of the stores.
All of a sudden, I found myself standing outside the door of my car. He began walking even faster towards me, eyes now glaring at me maliciously.
I fumbled for the door handle; he was now just inches away from me. I managed to finally open it and get in, quickly locking the doors and closing the windows which had somehow opened by themselves while I was standing outside.
I hastily locked the doors and drove off without even glancing behind me, my heart in my throat. I drove for miles, not knowing where I was going.
I found myself driving on a dusty road, and to either side of me, there was nothing but desert. I felt a sense of impending doom as the day started to turn into night in what seemed like a matter of seconds.
Then a figure appeared in front of me, holding what looked like a walking stick. I knew it was the man who seemed to be even more deformed in the night. He reached out towards my car, and his hands seemed to stretch out longer and longer as if made of rubber.
I screamed and swerved my car to avoid those menacing arms. And then he spoke, in a foreign, mockingly pleading voice, and I could hear his broken words reverberating through my skull. “Go back.” He repeated over and over and let out a screech that sounded strangled.
That was when my car ran out of fuel. I shuddered in my car, too afraid to look in the direction the man was.
Then, a bus the color of ebony stopped next to me. A door was flung open, and a young man, with concerned worry in his eyes, whispered, “Get in now.”
I felt a sense of relief wash over me. I rushed onto the bus. The doors locked behind me, and I watched the young man’s expression change into disgust before my very eyes.
“You should’ve listened to the man,” he said. “Because now your fate will replace his.”
And I felt myself screaming as I transformed into the man before my very eyes.
Dream interpretation and symbology have fascinated me ever since I read Freud’s classic, “The Interpretation of Dreams.” Ever since, I have explored Christian, Jewish, Hindu, and Buddhist as well as Jungian psychological ideas about the meaning of dreams. Thanks for joining me in my exploration of the amazing intersection between our conscious waking world and the rich expanse of our subconscious-the home of our intuition, instincts, and hidden potential.