If you’ve woken up from a series of pregnancy dreams and you’re a man, you can easily be forgiven for being confused or even panicked. To some extent, you can take some comfort from the biblical meaning of pregnancy dreams.
On the other hand, if you’re female and you’ve had a series of pregnancy dreams, please understand that your night vision doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be expecting soon.
Instead, this dream image and symbology are quite rich and packed with meaning.
Ignore them at your own risk, regardless of your gender.
What do pregnancy dreams represent?
Generally speaking, seeing yourself pregnant indicates the birth of a new chapter in your life.
This can be a new idea that you’ve been working on in the form of a project.
This can also be just a new notion that has popped up in your head and it’s taking up a lot of your emotional space and time.
These are very important opportunities because these could be celebrations of your ability to turn things that don’t exist (ideas and emotional urges) into reality.
That’s how powerful you are.
You are always in control of your life regardless of how many people you blame or how little you think of yourself.
This is why it’s really important to capitalize on this dream imagery so you can move forward to a new stage in your life.
As Isaiah 43:18 teaches, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing in your body. Now it springs up in the ground.”
One of the most famous passages in the Bible says the same thing when it comes to new things coming to life.
Just as physical pregnancy brings forth new life, spiritual pregnancy can also bring exciting new life changing developments.
2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come. The old has gone, the new is here.”
A lot of people claim to be driven by passion.
A lot of people are convinced that they have become new people.
This is all well and good, but if that sense just remains in your head, you’re not fooling anybody except maybe yourself.
You have to understand that the world doesn’t care about your intentions, motivations and the things that you think you should, could or would do.
None of that matters.
What matters is when you start behaving differently.
That is when you change the world.
That is when your faith is made manifest.
Again, another famous passage from the Bible from the Apostle James: “Faith without works is dead.”
You can say that “I am driven by my passions.”
You can say that “I am a new man or a new woman or I’ve seen the light.”
That is all well and good.
But until and unless there is a change in how you live out your life, people won’t be bothered.
People would still say you’re still a lousy father or you’re still a worthless son or daughter.
You didn’t act on this emotional urgency that your subconscious has been sending you all this time.
Action is required.
And for action to take place, courage is required.
What does it mean to dream of discovering that you’re pregnant?
Pregnancy is a 9-month process.
In the beginning, you don’t see much of anything.
This is especially true with women with a certain body type.
You can’t tell that they’re pregnant.
But as months go on, you can easily see that they are expecting a child.
Other women of other body types take much longer to “look pregnant.”
They’ve always been chunky so it’s hard to tell whether they’re pregnant or not.
But pretty soon, at a certain point in time, all doubts go away.
They are pregnant.
The same applies to your dreams and hopes.
A lot of people make a big deal of their dreams from the beginning.
They post on Facebook, they make a big production out of it.
And it’s no surprise that the disappointment and sense of humiliation are all that more crushing when things don’t pan out according to plan.
On the other hand, there are people who are nursing these dreams and are quietly working towards them but you can’t tell.
On the surface, it seems that they’re just doing what they did yesterday but behind the scenes, they’re actually putting in the work.
I’m not just talking about ordering a domain name or some sort of ebook or taking an online course.
No, I’m talking about actual work.
I’m talking about actually putting in the time to figure things out and learn from actual experience.
But they do so in a very covert way.
It’s not because they are afraid of public humiliation.
Instead, they are just so immersed in what they’re doing that it becomes part of their routine.
You have to ask them directly and specifically for them to tell you what’s going on.
It’s perfectly okay.
Now, you may be thinking, “Well, I’d rather be that quiet person.”
Well, we all have different personalities.
Some of us are more demonstrative than others.
A lot of us are excited by the performative aspect of planning and goal setting.
You do you.
If you are the type of person who likes to make a big production, then do it.
But here’s the important lesson to keep in mind.
Focus on what you stand to lose, and let that motivate you to success.
Put simply, think about how many people will laugh behind your back if that Facebook post that you made regarding your new business venture turns out to be a dud.
How do you think people will respond when they hear that your latest project has failed?
Think about the humiliation, the degradation, the loss of reputation, the sheer ridicule and laughing.
Now, feel the shame, the sting, the loss of character, and the reduction and embarrassment.
And now, take that negative energy.
And instead of running away from it, use it to motivate you.
You see, there are two types of people.
There are people who are proactive.
These are people who are driven by their hopes and dreams.
They just need to hear about a business opportunity or a new political agenda by a new political party and they’re all in.
They get excited because they work towards goals.
They seek to gain.
And this is the typical Hollywood portrayal of success seekers and strivers.
We seek to gain.
So you see a person start from nothing, work their way up, goes through ups and downs, gets crushed, beaten, faces giants, but eventually, they overcome and their victory is nothing short of glorious.
This is the typical Hollywood narrative of success.
But the reality is different.
The vast majority of people are actually the opposite.
Instead of being proactive, we are reactive.
There are people who have all this long list of things we should do.
We should lose weight, we should take care of our families better, we should take care of ourselves better, we should be nicer to others, and so on and so forth.
A long list.
But what do we do on a day-to-day basis?
That’s right, we focus on the things that we must do.
We must show up at this stucco cubicle for eight hours a day because if we don’t do that and put in the work, we don’t eat.
We have to eat, and a lot of the time, we eat garbage.
You know, the cheapest, lowest quality stuff we can find just to make it through.
Or we eat garbage because we don’t have the time to cook real good food.
I can go on and on.
These are the things that we feel we must do on a day-to-day basis.
So how does this workout? Well, we stick to the things that we must do.
As Tony Robbins says, we never get to our list of the things “we should do.”
That script is only flipped when we feel that there’s an emergency.
Maybe your doctor told you that you have stage three cancer.
Maybe your partner has told you that she’s about to leave.
Maybe your boss has given you the bad news that you’re being let go.
Whatever it is, it’s an impending disaster.
What do you think happens at that time to reactive people?
That’s right, they start doing the things they should do.
The lesson is, most people will only do whatever it is that they should do when they feel that their backs are against the wall.
They do it as a last resort.
They act the right way only when they feel that there is no other option.
They are left reacting to circumstances.
This is not a judgment.
This is reality.
And if you’re a reactive person, use what I just said above to work for you instead of against you.
Know that when you make a public statement about your plans and your projects, please understand that there is an element of danger to your reputation.
If things don’t work out according to plan, you will lose reputation.
You can’t take that to the bank.
People are polite enough not to say to your face, but you best believe that you are lesser in their eyes because you have failed.
Use that fear to work for you instead of against you.
The curse of bargaining with ourselves
Whenever we’re working towards any kind of worthy goal, whether it’s a relationship, better health, work outcomes or better educational opportunities, there is a tendency for us to bargain for mediocrity with ourselves.
It’s easy to see why because the road to success and victory is necessarily hard.
There’s a lot of challenges.
You will learn a few things and then you apply them.
Then you are faced with new challenges so you have to learn some more.
It takes a tremendous amount of patience.
And a lot of people refuse to let the journey change them so they’re stuck on the first stage.
They are who they were when they began the project.
They’re not any more patient.
They’re not any more understanding.
They’re not any more open minded.
So they remain stuck and the process seems to take forever.
And it is precisely during these emotionally trying times that people compromise with themselves.
First, they take a look at their goals and they say, “Maybe I bit off more than I can chew. Maybe I’m just not cut out for this.”
And the list goes on and on.
When you use the power of potential public shame, your natural ability to compromise with yourself is severely reduced.
If you’re the only audience to your big life project, you probably would settle for very little.
You would compromise yourself to such an extent that you will meet with abject failure and there are no consequences.
How can there be?
You’re the only audience to this mess?
Or shall I say shit show.
On the other hand, if you notice that your parents, your extended family, your neighbors, your co-workers, your childhood friends, your best buddies, even your enemies are looking at you and waiting for the results of this grand project that you publicly proclaimed.
The stakes are higher.
At least the emotional stakes are more palpable.
This is why I suggest that you feel, on a deep emotional psychological level, the sting of defeat.
Learn to channel the hate that you have for that feeling of being a loser, a piece of shit, a failure, a has been, a trash that you think other people would be saying silently or thinking to push you past those periods of compromise.
You’re probably going to be in a period of compromise right now.
You’re probably looking at your task list and saying, “Well, I have better things to do ” or “I have done this and things haven’t worked out so who’s to say that I’m going to get the same failure today?”
Don’t let your failure become your identity.
Use fear of shame and humiliation to push you forward.
This is how you go from constantly being pregnant to actually delivering on the big things and the big realities you were put on this earth for.
What does it mean for a man to dream of a positive pregnancy test?
For a lot of guys, seeing a positive pregnancy test result can be enough to give them the cold sweat.
A lot of this has to do, of course, with getting somebody pregnant and not being ready for it.
In many cases, you get somebody pregnant who you’re not in a relationship with.
This typical scenario highlights many people’s lack of comfort with the concept of commitment and the great reality behind commitment, which is responsibility.
This type of dream, regardless of your gender, doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen to you.
Instead, focus on how you handle the concept of responsibility, commitment, dedication, and willingness to take something all the way to the end.
It’s one thing to say that you want to be a dentist or a doctor or a lawyer, it’s another to go through the actual process of taking the aptitude test, applying to a specific professional school, going through possibly three to four or even five years of additional schooling, and then taking the board exam after you have gone through several review courses.
That is a long journey.
That requires a tremendous amount of commitment and focus.
Most people who go through that fail.
They don’t even go through the journey.
They just say to themselves, “I would have been a great doctor or an amazing lawyer.”
But the fact that you didn’t even commit to that “path of becoming” just shows how skewed or misinformed your conclusions about your fitness for a particular profession may be.
You have to understand that these and many other social roles are hard by necessity.
They filter out people that don’t deserve those roles.
Think about all the scammers, con men, political prostitutes, or flat out morons who would be our leaders today if the path to a legal career is so much easier.
No testing, just fill out a form, and just show up.
Do you see how this works?
So the key to understanding that positive pregnancy test symbol is to focus on your willingness to go through a process.
This process isn’t short nor is it easy, but think about how that process refines you and how all those hoops, hurdles, twists and turns and ups and downs, getting from the beginning all the way to the end tests your character.
This is how you become successful. It is the journey that changes you.
And I’m not just talking about professions like medicine, dentistry, or engineering and the law.
I’m also talking about any kind of job.
Because anything you do, whether you are a writer, a transcriber, a copy and paste or data entry person, there is always going to be a wide gulf between doing the bare minimum and producing barely passable stuff and being the best.
And this is what trips up a lot of people.
Being the best has nothing to do with what you’re being paid.
It has nothing to do with what you’re willing to be paid.
It has everything to do with what you’re willing to sacrifice for your craft.
Because at the end of the day, you will be judged by your work.
Are you going to be the type of person who just did barely enough not to get fired?
I know that’s kind of laughable, but don’t laugh too easily because that’s a thing right now in the United States and many other places in the world.
This is called “silent quitting.”
People who believe in silent quitting say that “I’m just going to do work that reflects what I’m paid.”
Talk about shallow thinking.
Because that’s not what’s going on.
What’s going on is your work quality reflects your character.
If you believe in the delusion that if you’re a graphic designer and that you somehow will become Leonardo da Vinci the moment your client pays you five times more, you’re deluding yourself.
In most cases, what you produce today repeatedly over an extended period of time reflects the best you can do.
So make it count.
Focus on who you truly are instead of factors you can’t control.
Because if you focus on your character, you will eventually get paid what you deserve.
Either you produce more or people ask for special jobs or projects.
I learned this firsthand.
Back when I was in California, I worked at a burger chain.
East of the Mississippi call them Hardee’s and West of the Mississippi call them Carl’s Jr.
It was actually my first and only fast food job and at the back of my head, I was thinking to myself, “What the hell happened to me?”
You know, I’m a high school graduate and I work at Carl’s Jr. So I did the bare minimum.
The fries that I was in charge of were almost burnt.
In many cases, I put too much salt, but I didn’t care.
I was looking only at how much money I was making, which was $3.35 an hour which was the minimum wage at that time.
It is my understanding that in some parts of the United States, $15 per hour is the new minimum wage.
But I’m not all that excited about the change in numbers because I know about inflation.
So don’t think that just because you’re making $15 in the specific state, that means that you’re living high on the hog all of a sudden because thanks to inflation, you’re still at the bottom.
But I was focused on that reality, that I was at the bottom, and it reflected in my work.
Little did I know that it was eating away at my character because I resigned myself to producing only low quality.
You are the quality of your work.
So regardless of whether you’re getting paid or not and regardless of how much you’re getting paid, if you produce quality, you are a quality person and it resonates in many areas of your life.
Are you the type of person that’s just going to do the bare minimum?
Or are you going to commit to doing something more because there is a standard?
When you see that image of the positive pregnancy test, it really indicates your relationship with this idea of commitment to standards.
This applies across the board, especially if you call yourself a believer.
So many people on this planet call themselves Christians or Muslims or whatever else.
But do they act like their label?
I’ll leave that up to you.
But at the end of the day, your character is showing through.
It has nothing to do with how much you’re getting paid.
It has everything to do with what you do repeatedly, who you say you are, and who you truly are behind closed doors.
You are more transparent than you care to believe or lead on.
This is why it’s crucial to start committing yourself.
A little bit of dedication scales up over time and it translates into a higher quality person all around.
And guess what?
Since we live in a global economy, eventually, the market will see what your value is because that is what you repeatedly do.
Either you do more or you take on special assignments or whatnot.
But eventually, the ultimate compensation is that you didn’t settle.
You weren’t like everybody else who was just doing the bare minimum not to get fired.
You are quality.
You are something else.
You’re special and you’re different.
Nobody can take that away from you.
What does it mean to dream of a complicated pregnancy that ends in miscarriage
This is one of the hardest dreams to have because all that expectation that you’re feeling, all that sense of something great or something new, comes to nothing.
But in reality, this is one of the ways our subconscious teaches us about our daily waking life.
I don’t want to depress you, but most people live miscarried lives.
I’m sure, if somebody were to ask you when you were little what you wanted to be or wanted to do when you grew up, there’s a high chance that it’s going to be very different from what you’re doing now to make a living.
This is true whether you’re in the United States, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, or any other part of the world.
This is just part of the human condition.
When we were little, we didn’t believe in excuses.
We didn’t believe in long standing mental traps and prisons that we eventually find ourselves in.
We haven’t yet fully acquired or inherited the mental and spiritual limitations of our parents.
The world is out, wide and open. It was full of possibility and adventure.
And it’s no surprise that at that point in our lives, we dreamt big and we were not taking no for an answer.
But I bet as we get older, the more you hear, “You can’t do that!”
Or people just laugh at you.
Or they look at you with a silent sadness, the unstated message being “Poor you.”
You will soon find out in the worst way.
Whatever reaction your initial plans may have been, you finally saw what the outcome was and now, here you are, living a shadow of what you could have been.
Miscarriage surrounds us.
Failure is the common denominator of life and it is precisely because of this that life is suffering.
After all, we live in an imperfect world.
But here’s the truth. We live in an imperfect world, for sure.
But that does not take away from the fact that we can still dream and we can still work towards our dreams.
We can work with reality as it exists to temper, push, and finally propel us to what we were destined to be.
The fact that the world is full of discouraging things doesn’t give us an excuse to just crumple up, assume a fetal position, and die.
I remember my first summer job during graduate school in California.
In the graduate program that I finished, there was a tradition that still applies today: if you don’t get a good summer job, your career is finished.
You entered a graduate field that pays quite a bit of money, but there is one catch, you have to get a summer job so it sets the tone of your career.
If you don’t go through that summer job program, you probably won’t have much of a career.
So this is what happened.
Me and a friend of mine fucked around and didn’t look for jobs the early part of the semester and by the time the summer rolled around, both of us were still jobless.
So he saw me at the Career Center printing out what seemed like about 500 different cover letters for my resume and I was just blasting them out to firms up and down the California coast.
My friend just said, “You’re just wasting your time. You should just join me and pick up chicks at the San Francisco pier. That’s what I’m going to do for the summer.”
I said to him, “Watch me.”
And sure enough, I got a summer job and my career took a different trajectory from my friend who basically remained unemployed in that industry ever since graduating.
Use the motivation that you get from proving people wrong to push you forward.
Dream interpretation and symbology have fascinated me ever since I read Freud’s classic, “The Interpretation of Dreams.” Ever since, I have explored Christian, Jewish, Hindu, and Buddhist as well as Jungian psychological ideas about the meaning of dreams. Thanks for joining me in my exploration of the amazing intersection between our conscious waking world and the rich expanse of our subconscious-the home of our intuition, instincts, and hidden potential.