If you see a dream image of your boyfriend with another female, what does it mean?
We automatically assume that this is cheating and, let’s face it, this is one of those kinds of dreams that will definitely get under your skin. A lot of your vulnerabilities, insecurities, and doubts about your relationship and even yourself will be exposed.
Cheating dreams about our significant other is one of the most common dreams to have. Keep this in mind—it’s not just you. A lot of people have these types of dreams.
Such dreams can indicate that your subconscious mind is having anxieties about your partner in real life or the quality of your relationship with that person.
Boyfriend with Another Girl Cheating Dream Indicates a Tremendous Sense of Insecurity
Now, please understand that this underlying issue of insecurity that manifests in your dream doesn’t mean that there’s something necessarily wrong with you or your romance. Maybe you haven’t known each other all that long, or you noticed certain things about him that you can’t quite put your finger on.
A lot of this is natural because, as you get to know each other, you get to see different sides of your personalities. A lot of your personal stories start coming out. And not all of this would be pleasant, especially if you come from totally different backgrounds or you have very different experiences from each other.
So, in this context, it’s perfectly natural to feel insecure about yourself and your relationship and have that manifest in a dream.
But this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have low self-esteem, nor does it mean that there’s something necessarily wrong with you. What would make it a problem is when you constantly worry and feel insecure about your relationship.
You may be asking questions like, “am I good enough for him? Or is he good enough for me? What else don’t I know about this person? How can I screw this up, or what does he need to do to screw this up?”
A lot of the time, we take the baggage that we have from our past romances into our new romances. And that’s the problem. Sometimes, we try to hold our new romantic partner to an impossible standard. It’s as if all the mistakes of the past partner have to be corrected by your newest flame.
Given this context, it’s no surprise that a lot of women have these feelings of insecurity when get they wake up from a dream about their partners cheating on them.
It gets even worse when we’re talking about somebody that you married.
Cheating Spouse Dreams Point to Larger Real-Life Relationship Problems
A cheating spouse dream means that you have deep and profound insecurities and fears that you feel are harder to fix.
When you’re with a boyfriend, you could easily call it off. It’s as simple as picking up the phone and breaking it off. Sure, it’s going to hurt, and there’s probably going to be times that you’re going to doubt yourself. But it’s totally different from marriage and divorce.
The good news is that as emotionally traumatic and possibly tiring these cheating dreams can be, they don’t necessarily have to happen in reality.
You Can Use Such a Dream to Practice Your Intuition and Attention to Detail
If you dream about a particular person that you caught cheating and you are somehow able to uncover the hidden truth about this infidelity, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to go through that heartbreak. It can be the boyfriend of your close friend. It can be your parents.
What this means is that you have a strong intuition and that you have to cultivate that strong sixth sense. This doesn’t take place with just one cheating dream.
Oftentimes, the real “boyfriend with another girl” dream interpretation involves your intuition waking up. It’s as if you’re finally able to connect the dots, and you’re able to see what other people can’t see. I’m not talking magical terms here. I’m just talking about attention to detail.
Also, what you actually discover in the real world may not have anything to do with cheating, infidelity, or something similar. Instead, it might just be a deep and profound sensitivity to details that other people often overlook.
You might be able to figure things out when it comes to money, trustworthiness as far as friendships go, that kind of thing.
There Are Different Types of Meanings for Cheating Dreams
You have to look at context when it comes to your dream interpretation. Figuring out what the “boyfriend with another girl” dream signifies is not exempt from this. So what should you look for?
Pay close attention to the following motifs.
To Dream About Your Boyfriend Girlfriend with Another Girl
This cheating dream means that you need to strengthen the bond that you have with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It means that you are in a cool-down phase, or you’ve just gotten really comfortable around each other.
This is natural. In many relationships, you reach a point where things are routine. It’s as if it’s going to take a lot for you to be surprised by your partner because, deep down inside, you feel that you’ve fully figured them out.
You have to be very careful when you have this mindset and when you get cheating dreams like this. Your partner might end up surprising you in the worst way possible.
Also, it might not even involve heartbreak. You might find out in certain areas of your life that you’ve been overlooking something until it finally blows up in your face.
Relationships Aren’t Meant to Stagnate or Be Routine
The bottom line is you should value your connections—whatever form they may take—and allow yourself to be truly in tune with each other’s emotions.
If you commit to truly discovering everything you can with your partner, you’ll never run out of things to talk about. Each and every day will still be an adventure because all people have mysteries that even they, themselves, remain ignorant about or are not fully conscious of. This is why it’s really important to have the right mindset.
To have dreams about your boyfriend or girlfriend with another girl means that you have to be more mindful of your conscious mind to see what is wrong or to detect patterns.
Dreaming About Your Partner Cheating with Your Best Friend
One of the worst feelings that you could ever get is the feeling of double betrayal when your partner and your most trusted buddy cheat on you. Talk about being stabbed twice.
The good news is that this often doesn’t mean what it looks like. Just because you dream that your partner and closest friend cheated doesn’t necessarily mean that your partner is cheating around on you in your waking life.
This dream can mean that you have underlying feelings that just need to settle down. The intimacy that you have with your closest friend is not the same as the relationship that you’re trying to build with your partner.
If anything, in most cases, cheating dreams like this just highlight the disconnect between the comfort, acceptance, and belonging that you’ve developed with your most trusted buddy over a long period of time and this very special person.
Dreams like this can also reveal anxiety or worry about the future because you’re thinking, “I want this new person to be my closest friend. I want my new romantic partner to truly know me and understand me for who I am.” This is fine; it’s in our nature to worry about these things.
Everybody wants to belong. Everyone wants to find the meaning of their connection. Everybody wants to be accepted, especially in the deepest intimate ways—that’s why we have romantic flames in the first place.
But you have to let things take a life of their own, and this takes time. You can’t rush it. Otherwise, you’re going to be putting an unrealistic amount of pressure on your new guy or girl and end up scaring him or her away.
If You Dreamed About Your Boyfriend Girlfriend Cheating with a Co-Worker
What Does It Mean If You Dreamed About Your Boyfriend or Girlfriend Cheating with a Workmate?
When infidelity takes the form of an office or workmate, money enters the situation.
First of all, you have to work harder on your relationship. And, no—this doesn’t mean that it’s his or her fault—that he or she just has to try harder. No. Oftentimes, you also have to put in the work.
How forthcoming are you about your feelings? How honest are you when you try to communicate deep personal truths and dreams with your partner? Are you scared that that person will somehow walk away if they find out something uncomfortable or embarrassing about you?
It all boils down to trust. The good news is if you’re fully open and your heart is open, you will attract the right person.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of little girls and little boys out there that cannot handle a real man or woman. You have to accept that risk. It doesn’t matter how good they look or how awesome they make you feel—whether sexually, emotionally, spiritually, or psychologically.
If you cannot connect at the level of deep personal honesty—and I’m talking about the level that won’t age, get fat, get addicted to drugs, refuse to take a job, beat you up, or any of the other sad realities that the twists and turns of relationships sometimes lead to—I’m not talking about any of that stuff. I’m talking about stuff that’s real.
If you can’t connect at that real level, and you see all these signs and red flags, then you’re better off looking for somebody else.
It doesn’t mean that you can’t have a good time while you’re looking, but you have to be clear about your priorities. Sometimes, it takes the form of a partner cheating with someone from work that enables you to see this because, sometimes, there’s money involved.
When there is money, that’s when our trust issues materialize front and center.
If You Are Dreaming About Kissing or Cheating with Someone from Your Previous Relationship
What Does It Mean If You Are Dreaming About Kissing or Cheating with Someone from Your Previous Relationship?
If you have dreams about somebody from your past, this can mean that you are craving or missing the positive characteristics of your ex. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to get back with them.
Remember, if you take them back, it’s a complete package. You have to be at peace with what made you break up in the first place.
But just because you see yourself having sex with or kissing somebody from your past in your sleep or dream doesn’t mean that you want them back. It just means that there’s something about your relationship in the past that you miss.
Maybe it’s not present in your current partner, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it will forever be missing.
If anything, this dream imagery should push you to put in more effort to achieve the kind of intimacy in your current relationship that possibly will deliver whatever it is you’re craving.
If You Dreamed About Your Guy Making Love with a Woman at Night
What Does It Mean If You See Your Boyfriend or Husband Having Sex with Another Woman at Night?
The nighttime element in this dream indicates a sense of desire and guilt.
Maybe you feel that you really can’t please your man. Maybe you feel that you dropped the ball when it comes to your past flames as far as sexual pleasure goes, and you’re insecure about pleasing your current man.
You have to let go of guilt, and you have to let go of this risk of loss and focus on the intimacy that you truly share with your present partner.
Otherwise, this deep and profound vulnerability—because you feel that you cannot pleasure him or you cannot give him what he wants—will eat away at your self-esteem and ultimately find its way in your relationship, which can end sooner than you think.
So what is the alternative? What is this pushing you to wake you up to?
Well, let your relationship be a mutual exploration. Allow your spouse or partner to lead and tell you what makes him feel good but insist on your right to tell him what makes you feel fulfilled. Do you see how this works?
It’s a two-way street. It doesn’t matter how awesome he makes you feel or how good he looks to you; he still has to treat you with respect. That means that it has to be a two-way street. The pleasure has to be the same level of intensity: going both ways.
Otherwise, there’s an unevenness there that may start out small but eventually grows so big that your relationship blows apart. You don’t want to do that.
What Does It Mean to Dream of Your Husband Having an Affair or Your Wife Having a Lover?
Pay attention to the signs and roles in this dream. This is especially true if you are just the boyfriend or girlfriend of the person in your dream.
The fact that you have recast that person as your spouse in your sleep means that you are insecure about your relationship’s direction. The dream interpretation for this is that your mind is playing all these alternative scenarios if you do pull the trigger and get married.
Make no mistake; getting married is one of the scariest commitments many people could ever get into. That’s why a lot of guys get cold feet—they’d rather stay single forever.
But the good news is you can overcome this insecurity by looking at the signals present in that dream imagery. Where is infidelity happening in your dream? Are you there? Are you witnessing it?
Also, pay close attention to the name your significant other says when they climax in the dream. This may seem pretty sad or alarming to see in dreams, but it actually leads to the interpretation of your insecurities regarding the future of your current flame.
What is the center of the dream? Is it your partner achieving their pleasure? Or is it you?
Dreams About Intimacy Can Beat Up Our Conscious Mind
I don’t mean to lay out the obvious, but to dream these types of dreams is not good for our conscious minds. Dreams like these provoke feelings of fear, anxiety, and loss to the dreamer.
Sometimes, your subconscious mind is wired so that the brain can’t help but think of worst-case scenarios or make up some impending disaster in your dreams.
In other words, everything might be going well in your romance. You might have met, married, had kids, and put up an amazing home together; you’re well-respected; there’s enough money; everybody’s happy.
But then, you have dreams of your husband becoming your boyfriend and having sex with another girl. What gives?
Well, whenever there is stability, there is always the alternate reality. In this psychological place, we ask ourselves, “what if?”
When this happens in your dream, meaning you may be insecure about losing what you already have. This doesn’t mean that it will come to pass.
But if you respond to this dream in a very irrational way, or you let your emotions get the better of you, so you’re nitpicking or just picking at your partner, it may set in motion things that you ultimately can’t control.
Dreams Are Not Prophecies for Our Real Lives
What happens in dreams doesn’t necessarily mean that the dream will actually happen in real life. What happens in the dream world are usually reflections of our subconscious insecurities, feelings of inadequacy, or just fear of losing what we have. The last part is perfectly normal.
You have things that other people do not have. You have happiness. You have stability, continuity, and regularity. You have somebody in your life that you know won’t cheat on you.
Since it’s so important and you get so much happiness from it, your mind can come up with all sorts of “what if” scenarios that can manifest in a dream. You just have to keep things in perspective.
Unless there is something in your waking life that would support any suspicion of infidelity, backstabbing, or emotional failure, then you just let the dream go.
If anything, this is just a healthy release of pent-up subconscious pressure that can help you achieve a greater level of personal serenity and peace in your personal life.
Still, when you do see this dream imagery, the first thing that you need to do when dealing with these types of dreams is to talk to your partner.
If your relationship is built on honest and you enjoy open communications on a very deep level, things will be okay. You’ll no longer just be the spouse or significant other. You’ll always be boyfriend and girlfriend.
Dream Example #1
It’s a beautiful Friday afternoon, the sun is shining brightly. The back and forth movement of the trees as the wind blows across them is so compelling.
I looked at my wristwatch, it’s 3:30 pm.
“I wish I am out there, sitting under one of those trees”, I muttered to myself as I pushed the blinds sideways and opened the window a little bit wider to feel the breeze on my face.
I just received a call from my boyfriend Reuben. He canceled our date for 6 pm today, something about working late.
I was disappointed because I was looking forward to that date.
I sighed as I closed the blinds, turned around, and headed to the reception.
I can feel my muscles aching. I can’t wait to get off work.
My shift ends at 4:00 pm. Time seems to be very slow today.
As I rounded things up to end my shift, I concluded in my heart to go to Reuben’s house from here.
Perhaps, it was time I accepted his invitation to spend the weekend in his house.
Yes, I’ll do that. I have missed him.
WAITING FOR REUBEN
In front of Reuben’s house, I pulled out the spare key he had given to me some time ago from the little compartment in my handbag and opened the door.
As I stepped in, I noticed how clean and well-arranged the living room was.
I entered his bedroom and was amazed.
He had a new bedsheet; clean, fresh, and properly laid.
I opened the closet to see that his clothes were all lined up and hanging neatly.
“Wow! This guy is full of surprises!” I said to myself.
“Did he know I was going to come? Was that why he canceled our date?”. I thought.
Reuben has been so sweet and caring these past two weeks.
Who would have believed a girl like me could get a guy as handsome as Reuben? Uh! Such luck, and to think I almost lost him to Jane four months ago still makes me shudder whenever I think about it.
I can’t imagine my life without him.
I placed my handbag in the closet as I wondered what my mum would say when I tell her am not coming home tonight.
In the kitchen, I decided to make dinner, spaghetti, and sausages.
Luckily, I found everything I needed. It is one part of Reuben I like so much, he never runs out of groceries.
It was 7:30 pm when I finished cooking and setting the table. Reuben wasn’t back yet.
I got into the bathroom, showered, and put on one of his clean shirts, with absolutely nothing underneath. I smiled to myself as I stretched lazily on the bed.
GETTING CAUGHT IN THE ACT
Hours later, I was awakened by the noise coming from the front door.
I looked at the time on my phone, it was 10 pm.
“Why would Reuben be working this late?” I thought.
I was about to get off the bed when I heard two footsteps rushing towards the bedroom.
Fear gripped my heart.
Immediately, I reached for the bedside lamp, switched it off, and held it as a weapon in the darkroom.
Suddenly, the bedroom door burst open and I saw two figures tugging at each other coming towards the bed.
My fear turned to relief and my relief turned to shock as I switched on the light.
There was Rueben my beloved boyfriend pants down and a lady completely naked, both standing in front of me, about to get into bed.
My shock turned into anger as recognition set in.
It was Jane.
The very Jane that almost stole my boyfriend four months ago.
Immediately, I pounced on her, threw her on the bed, and held her neck while my boyfriend stood there shouting my name;
“Elise! Elise!! Elise!!!”
I woke up to the voice of my mum calling me from my bedroom door,
“Elise!!! You’ll be late for work if you don’t get up at once”.
I got out of bed and into the bathroom.
Dream interpretation and symbology have fascinated me ever since I read Freud’s classic, “The Interpretation of Dreams.” Ever since, I have explored Christian, Jewish, Hindu, and Buddhist as well as Jungian psychological ideas about the meaning of dreams. Thanks for joining me in my exploration of the amazing intersection between our conscious waking world and the rich expanse of our subconscious-the home of our intuition, instincts, and hidden potential.